Your fragile little ego needs to get over your wife's past. The past is the past. She is with you now.How should i feel about my girl friends past?
In a woman's life her attitudes, moras, beliefs and self-esteem can change dramatically. Just remember that all of her past actions werer results of past emotions. From what you are telling me it sounds as though her emotions have changed since she has been with you, and her faithful and loving actions reflect that. Do not judge her for her past but feel proud of her, yourself, and your relationship for inspiring faithful actions in both of you, through the emotions you both feel when you are together.
Well just think of it like this she has been through a lot and has picked you out of all the rest. She probably learned a lot about men and likes the qualities you have. So be glad she wasn't a virgin who didn't know what she wanted or how to make a man happy. Forget the bullcrap insecurity bit and just accept her as she is or she'll leave you because you are acting immature and jealous about the past. And by the way how many women have you been with in your 40yrs huh?
DONT JUDGE HER ON HER PAST! its the worst feeling in the world. i was not exactly loyal to my past two boyfriends bbut thats becuase they were long distance and i didnt really care for them (es i know thats know excuse and it was horrible of me) but anyways my current bf is constantly worrying about that and it drives me crazy. it makes me feel like he doesnt trust me. although you have good reason to worry and everything you need to let it go. if she has gotten through it and over it then you need to also.
Maybe she was a wild child when she was younger or she thinks of sex as just an activity two people do together. I mean, at least she has a lot of experience so she'll be an expert in bed. IMO it shouldn't matter. She is faithful, she is clean of disease, no problem. Concentrate on your relationship and try not to nip pick at little things are really don't have anything to do with your current relationship unless it REALLLY bothers you like u are afraid of your health or just think sex is more precious (belief system) But if its a pride thing... let it go.
Excuse my bluntness, but ';how could a woman do that';... How could a woman do what exactly? Love men? Yeah, I wonder about that, too...
Unless you want to be number 26, I suggest you mature your thinking and start appreciating the woman instead of dissing her past. It is past for a reason. Besides, after 7 years it's a bit late to start acting like a virgin teenager. Unless you are at that age when men start fantasizing about younger, ';fresher'; girls to boost their manhood.
You say she has been true to you these 7 years. Then she obviously loves you and thinks you are worth sticking around without marriage (7 years together and she is still your girlfriend, not your wife).
Now, to answer your question directly, one of the reasons a woman may have mutiple boyfriends is this:
It is generally very easy for women to think they love a guy, until it becomes clear that that guy isn't worth it. Then the relationship ends. Then a new guy comes along and the woman wants love and thinks she found it. Rinse and repeat. It is so much easier to find yourself in bad relationships than good ones.
Then one day the woman looks back and sees that instead of just one Mr. Right she found several Mr. Wrong. Out of these Mr. Wrong, some couldn't take the fact that she had previous relationships and consider her tainted, failing to realize that by doing that, they contribute to her being tainted.
Now what you should do is forget about her past and look at the present. Ask yourself this:
Does she really love me? Do I really love her? Is she the woman for me to spend the rest of my life with? Do we have a good relationship?
If the answer is yes to all of these questions, then that's what matters. If not, then it's time you let your girlfriend go so she can have the chance to finally find Mr. Right.
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