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Is my life over or what?


As a 23 year old guy, finally over all the family problems which really took a toll on me. Parents fighting, my estranged half sister i didnt know about and family getting sued for child support, verbal physical abuse...





When I was 20, I was confused about my sexuality for the 2nd time, having never been with a girl and being attracted to men. Around 21 I started watching pornography and started masturbating, I innocently experimented with 3 or 4 men. I also chatted and made friends with guys online because I was never sure of my sexualty. I realize now that I'm not gay, I no longer have those thoughs or friends. I want to move on and one day be in a relationship with a girl and have kids and fulfill my destiny (be great to the world).





At 23 I finally understand that I had those thoughts because I needed a father figure and grew up with too many women, was molested as a teen by a university professional who should have known better that threatened to rape me, I was young and did not understand my sexualty - so frustrating...





I see young people so happy dating, being normal, full of life - and im dragging. I m a born again christian, Ive been to a psychologist, I feel guitly for these two past years of uneccessary confusion, I'm ashamed and frustrated that the porn will be with me always - I wish a family member had asked me in my teens about girls, ( a father figure) I was just always so scared...ANY IDEAS ON HOW TO MOVE ON, COMPLETELY FORGET YESTERDAY? IS THIS COMPULSIVE THINKING? SOMETIMES I HATE BEING ME...IM AFRAID I WILL SLIP AND TELL SOMEONE ABOUT MY PAST. I HATE THAT I HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS...FIRST I WORRIED I WAS IN THE WRONG RELIGION, THEN I WORRIED OBSESSIVELY ABOUT LOOKS, THEN SEXUAL ORIENTATION. ANY HELP?





I dream of having a family, inspiring the world, using my talents..PS my psychologist said I have OCD, but didnt describe meds





My only sadness now is that memories linger, I dont feel the need to tell my future wife any of this cause these were young mistakes that don't define me, other than that Im a great loving guy who did not have male guidance...How can I live a better life?
Please Realize that Porn Destroys, See How it has destroyed the lives of those who were involved in that Industry





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By far, the most searched for terms on the internet are related to pornography. Pornography is rampant in the world today. Perhaps more than anything else, Satan has succeeded in twisting and perverting sex. He has taken what is good and right (loving sex between a husband and wife) and replaced it with lust, pornography, adultery, rape, and homosexuality. Pornography can be the first step on a very slippery slope of ever-increasing wickedness and immorality (Romans 6:19). The addictive nature of pornography is well documented. Just as a drug user must consume greater and more powerful quantities of drugs to achieve the same “high,” pornography drags a person deeper and deeper into hard-core sexual addictions and ungodly desires.





The three main categories of sin are the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life (1 John 2:16). Pornography definitely causes us to lust after flesh, and it is undeniably a lust of the eyes. Pornography definitely does not qualify as one of the things we are to think about, according to Philippians 4:8. Pornography is addictive (1 Corinthians 6:12; 2 Peter 2:19), and destructive (Proverbs 6:25-28; Ezekiel 20:30; Ephesians 4:19). Lusting after other people in our minds, which is the essence of pornography, is offensive to God (Matthew 5:28). When habitual devotion to pornography characterizes a person’s life, it demonstrates the person is not saved (1 Corinthians 6:9).





For those involved in pornography, God can and will give the victory. Are you involved with pornography and desire freedom from it? Here are some steps to victory: 1) Confess your sin to God (1 John 1:9). 2) Ask God to cleanse, renew, and transform your mind (Romans 12:2). 3) Ask God to fill your mind with Philippians 4:8. 4) Learn to possess your body in holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). 5) Understand the proper meaning of sex and rely on your spouse alone to meet that need (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). 6) Realize that if you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh (Galatians 5:16). 7) Take practical steps to reduce your exposure to graphic images. Install pornography blockers on your computer, limit television and video usage, and find another Christian who will pray for you and help keep you accountable.